mad anthony

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Saturday, December 29, 2007

Guess I'm screwed (and not in a good way)...

I stumbled on this Yahoo article on 10 tips to approaching women with confidence. It tells you that if you want to talk to women, you need to keep your head up, keep eye contact, not hesitate, and smile. All things I never do, especially the keep your head up thing.

I hate articles like this, or people who make statements like "you just need to be more confident" -as if confidence is something that can be switched on, like it's a totally random thing not connected to past experiences, to past failures, to the very real likelihood of being rejected. It's not. Instead, it's a spiraling circle that feeds itself - you are self-consious, so you lose confidence - which makes you more of a failure, and thus even less confident, and more of a failure. Lather, rinse, repeat.

I guess I should get used to lots of evenings at home talking to the cat. Meow!


At 11:03 AM, Blogger tralatrala said...

you know that spiral works the opposite way too, with positive thought reinforcing positive thought.



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